tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post1090836763103371451..comments2024-01-04T23:14:07.378-05:00Comments on Chunks of Reality: I am so sadChunks of Realityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05550378591715392039noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post-49720381770273351912013-07-31T07:54:19.382-04:002013-07-31T07:54:19.382-04:00Thank you for sharing your sadness. How brave and...Thank you for sharing your sadness. How brave and generous. No one can say ...don't feel sad. It hurts like hell. It feels like hell. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post-64351899040945321982011-11-04T16:05:22.574-04:002011-11-04T16:05:22.574-04:00I think I can honestly say I know exactly what you...I think I can honestly say I know exactly what you are going through right now. I feel the same exact way about my daughter. She moved in with her father a year and a half ago, and I'm bereft. <br /><br />I miss her terribly, and it doesn't help that her father and step-mother have cut me completely out of her life, other than my meager every other half weekend. <br /><br />Yesterday was her birthday. I was removed from her friends list on facebook, but can still see some posts that are open to "friends of friends". In one of these posts she referred to her step mother as "her mom". I cannot tell you how horrible that made me feel. She tried to instruct me to introduce myself (to her boyfriend's mother) as her "biological mother". I was never so offended and hurt in my life. And now to see that she's referring to her step mother as her "mom"? This was the daughter I loved and raised for 13 years, 11 of those years alone with no help. The last year and a half has been horrifying. Going to court and losing more and more time with her. I don't understand this. But parental alienation is an insidious disease, and being that she's "older", the courts listen to her. she's alienated, and doesn't want to be around me. I know what you mean about seeing the pictures. It's quite a nasty jolt, when you're feeling low and you see the pictures. Makes me want to put them all away.Karen ^..^https://www.blogger.com/profile/05197114237324824217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post-35506132126318849742011-07-10T19:06:24.375-04:002011-07-10T19:06:24.375-04:00You really haven't failed as a mother. Life wi...You really haven't failed as a mother. Life with girls is complicated at the best of times. Life with girls and mothers is a minefield. Unfortunately, when you get the daughter, you don't get a manual of how to work them! And because all relationships are different, that manual can never be written. we all just muddle along and hope for the best. Your daughter sounds like she is a credit to you. <br />Trust yourself and let yourself get well. Your daughter and you will come together again in time and in the meantime, let yourself off the hook. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post-88330646200488190372011-06-20T18:45:45.615-04:002011-06-20T18:45:45.615-04:00You shouldn't be sad. Try to think of all the ...You shouldn't be sad. Try to think of all the good times you've had with her and try to get as strong as you can, take your time and then look forward to good times and shared smiles with her that are all to come.debadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07558657380671235088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-161067251191887469.post-26981887383782662542011-05-22T04:44:29.741-04:002011-05-22T04:44:29.741-04:00Why do you think you have failed? The fact that sh...Why do you think you have failed? The fact that she is becoming her own person and breaking away from you actually is a good and natural progress. It means she is a brave girl with an independent mind. She will come back to you when she is ready. <br /><br />But I can really understand that you would also be resentful. Because I would be too. I would think my son to be an ungrateful and thoughtless shit - the reality being that he is a typical teenager.<br /><br />He and I used to always hang out together and now he hangs out with Xbox and his friends and I felt lonely. I understand the grieving because it is a loss for you.<br /><br />Being a parent comes with all sorts of big emotions and not all of them are good. But you love her and she knows that. That knowledge will be with her always. <br /><br />Take care CB<br /><br />Linda<br />xxlindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392205573326695683noreply@blogger.com