Monday, December 3, 2007

Plans Don't Always Work the Way You Want

Went to work Saturday. I was very happy because I took my toy poodle named HoneyBunny. She has recently been groomed and is just gorgeous. She has a little bobble in the top knot of her hair that is a dark green and dark red bow. She also is wearing her dark green sweater to match. I'll take pics when I can and post them. She laid on my lap the entire time and napped. I just loved it. That is one reason (out of many) why I would love to work for Google. You can take your dog to work every day there.

Saturday night I was able to visit other's blogs and post an entry of my own! Sunday I worked on my paper and was ready to put up the Christmas tree. It didn't happen.

I have been talking about putting up the tree for DAYS now. It was an event that I wanted my family and I to sip eggnog, listen to Christmas music and decorate together. My husband went to the store to get eggnog and I waited for him to get home. Thirty minutes later I receive a call from him. He got the eggnog; however, he wasn't on his way home! He decided to visit his sister. I was incredulous. I said, "You aren't coming home? I thought we were going to put the tree up." He said, "I'll be home later. What's the problem?"


I don't even need to go further.

He arrived home at 7:00pm. It was too late by then. I very nicely said, "I understand if you don't want to put the tree up if you don't feel like it. Please, next time just let me know and I won't be here waiting and thinking that is what we are going to do." He said, "I got home at 7:00! We could have put it up". I reminded him that the day before I told him I wanted to start decorating around 4:00pm to 5:00pm because it takes a while and I wanted it to be done by 7:00pm. A little later than that would have been fine, but I wanted to put a stake in the ground that we wouldn't go over so that we wouldn't be up all night decorating when we had work and school the next day.

He said, "I don't know what the big deal is. We could have done it."


I don't even need to go further.

He said that he will go ahead and get the tree ready. It is a fake tree with prelit lights. He said that he would set it up and we'll do it tonight when I get home from work. He reminded me that he's not from here and that he doesn't even get excited about holidays in his own country. I told him that if he did get excited and wanted to celebrate holidays in his country that it would be fine with me and fun. All he needs to do is say the word. He said he didn't want to. I told him that just because he doesn't celebrate in his own country doesn't mean that we shouldn't celebrate here. I reminded him that he is now with two people who celebrate Christmas and that we want him to be involved as well. I told him that it's not always about him.

He agreed.

Well, then. I guess we'll decorate tonight.

At least I hope so.


Anonymous said...

Can't wait to see some pictures of that tree. Looks like you handled things pretty darn well, mama.

Anonymous said...

Guys don't get it unless you stamp it on their head.

You handled the whole thing very well. I am sure I would have been a bit hostile.

I do the tree with or without any husband or son.

Anonymous said...

Can't wait to see the poodle pix!! Furbabies are our teachers and healers.

I'm sorry about the tree and the holiday disparity. It's difficult when our life-mates do not share our passions. But, you made your point clearly and it was agreed upon. Happy tree decorating!

Anonymous said...

I don't have plans for decorating any tree this year so I'll have to get into the Christmas spirit by looking at pics of yours! :)

If he doesn't keep the tree date this time, kick him in the a** from me!


Anonymous said...

ya, plans don't always work our way. I guess that's why we compromise. since everyone's different and if we don't compromise, we'll end up pulling each other's hair out.

and I agree that guys never get it unless you tell them straight. I mean, a few do but they're pretty exceptional. just don't say it in a confrontational or hurt tone because that gets them all defensive before you even start.

again, happy holidays!

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